Shadi Ke Side Effects and My 30th Wedding Anniversary

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“Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who wants to live in an institution?”Rightly said by Groucho Marx!

No wonder a Shadi has thunderous side-effects, too much to tolerate but still people love it! For me, it’s that starter which turns into a chilled dessert in course of time— you can neither swallow it nor spit it, rather it melts gradually in your mouth and gets digested in your systems. The beauty of an Indian Shadi is that whether you like it or not, once you opt for it, you are bound to live with it!

[highlight]18 June 1986 [/highlight]was the day I got married. For me it’s been 30 years of living in an institution that has made my life a roller- coaster ride filled with sweet yet sour experiences. Normally I write serious stuff while blogging but when it comes to writing about any wedding (mine too), it’s such a serious stuff that either you sob or make fun of it. 😛

shadi ke side effects
Marriage is that vinegar which turns the sweetest of the fruits into sour pickles.

So, here’s my hilarious version of 10 #ShadiKeSideEffects . . . . .         

Shadi Ke Side Effects 1: I have two houses to live in but I belong nowhere! At hubby’s house, mom-in-law says, “It’s my household so you cannot interfere”; same says my mom sarcastically at parent’s house, “This house is no longer yours”. So which one is actually mine?

Shadi Ke Side Effects 2: I’m well dressed, well made-up, bejeweled, bedecked and looking absolutely stunning! Still hubby stares other fat women in the party!  

Shadi Ke Side Effects 3: I’ve been saving money for a solitaire for last two years and suddenly hubby spends entire money on the latest 3D/LEDT.V. prior to the IPL match.  

Shadi Ke Side Effects 4: When he wears my Eau De Femme perfume in a hurry and I’m the one to be embarrassed amidst the party!

Shadi Ke Side Effects 5: When hubby walks two steps ahead of me while dashing through the streets with his nose swollen with big male chauvinist ego.

Shadi Ke Side Effects 6: When I cook a sumptuous meal, decorate the house painstakingly to surprise him with a candlelight dinner and he surprises (rather shocks) me back with the announcement of having already taken his dinner with friends.

Shadi Ke Side Effects 7: If the kids achieve something great, hubby takes due credits immediately, but the moment they’re caught up doing anything wrong I’m the one to be blamed.

Shadi Ke Side Effects 8: When I earn, it becomes ‘our’ money and when he earns, it becomes ‘my’ money!

Shadi Ke Side Effects 9: A bottle of wine becomes ‘good for health’ and a bowl of salad becomes my ‘excuse for not cooking’!

Shadi Ke Side Effects 10: When I buy a diamond solitaire, it’s the ‘sheer wastage’ of money. But, when he buys a Macbook Pro, it’s a ‘wise investment’. 

On the eve of my 30th wedding anniversary, while I’m juggling up with my #ShadiKeSideEffects, I’m sure my hubby must have forgotten the day. But the beauty of this institution is that, when he’ll remember it (of course not before tomorrow) he surely would compensate it with an expensive gift. I will accept it with a fake smile, throw it in my cupboard and never use it again in my life to show my anger.  👿

So these #ShadiKeSideEffects along with a million more after-effects are those sweet and sour flavors that spice up our marriage making it a full-on 10/10 drama. My 30 years old Shadi is filled with much more chaotic experiences. But the cherry on the cake and the most amazing effect is having such beautiful kids! Cheers to #ShadiKeSideEffects 🙂

Sangeeta Mishra

  • First of all, looking at ur pic, u don’t look like u have been married for 30 years! I could relate to few points in ur post, especially about the 2 houses. Enjoyed reading every word. Wish u both a happy anniversary!

    • Thank you so much for your lovely wishes Shaivi.
      Well, the secret behind my looking young is– that I got married at a very young age. I was even a week less than 18, so it was kind of child-marriage and technically illegal. So, I’m not married and look young. Hehe…just joking 🙂
      Thanks once again. Glad that you enjoyed the read 🙂

  • Now when I am into 4th year of our Marriage, I can totally relate to each and every Side Effect. A point comes where these are the things to laugh on rather than to be sad about. I agree the best gift of Marriage is Kids. Thanks for sharing Mam. Bless you both.

    • Thank you so much for your lovely wishes Upasana.

      Truly said. After a certain point of time you learn to laugh than to be sad, this is the beauty of Indian weddings. Cheers to us, the women and to the institution called marriage.
      Thanks once again. Glad that you enjoyed the read 🙂

  • Rajeev Moothedath

    Very nicely written- Humourous and meaningful!

    • Thank you so much Mr. Rajeev. Glad that you enjoyed the read 🙂

  • This post made me laugh Sangeeta ji, but later after reading it I found the hidden meaning. All these side effects are seen in all couples life. They just simply complain and stay silent, but you made it into a post with humour touch.

    And congratulations! On reaching the 30years of divine relationship. May God bless you both with all the bests and success. 🙂

    • Thank you so much for your lovely wishes Prasanna. Your presence on TSS always mean a lot to me and your heartfelt good wishes in this post are more than just comment on the blogpost but indeed very special to me.
      Thanks once again. Glad that you enjoyed the read 🙂

  • bushra

    Hahah!! Aww.. A wife has to keep up with so much yet she does it with love 😀 I love weddings and I can’t wait to get married and experience all of the drama myself. 😛 Many congratulations to you Ma’am 🙂

    • Thank you so much for your lovely wishes Bushra. Well said about weddings. ” Marriage is that vinegar which turns the sweetest of the fruits into sour pickles”. And you need to taste that vinegar to pass the test of time.
      Well, jokes apart, all the very best for your great married life ahead. God bless you. 🙂
      Glad that you enjoyed the read. 🙂

  • 30 years! Congratulations! Wish you many more! 🙂
    Loved reading the contrasts for H&W! 🙂

    • Thank you so much for your lovely wishes Indrani. Glad that you enjoyed the read. 🙂

  • Congratulations 🙂 🙂
    These sweet and sour moments make life lovable. cheers to your companionship.

    • Thank you so much for your lovely wishes Swati. Glad that you enjoyed the read. 🙂

  • Congratulations…..30 years is a feat that looks a distant reality given today’s time of short-term relationships. Your take is hilarious…..What did you husband say on this?

    • Thanks a lot for your lovely wishes Sunaina. Well my husband never reads what I write and I never listen to what he speaks. So, this is the secret of our still being together for 30 years despite all odds.
      Hehe, jokes apart, it really means a lot being read and appreciated by you. Glad that you enjoyed the read. 🙂

  • Lovely, Maitreni! Valid points.
    Wishing your parents much happiness & a forever score of 10/10 working 24X7 🙂

    • Thank you so much for your lovely wishes Anita. Glad that you enjoyed the read 🙂

  • sibichen

    Wonderfully put. So true, many times, in many relationships

  • Priyanka

    Hahaha, so well presented! Happy 30th! 🙂

    • Thank you so much Priyanka. Glad that you enjoyed it. 🙂

  • Anupam Patra

    Delightful read.

  • Wonderful take on side-effects of marriage, Sangeeta Ji. Enjoyed it. But it’s one-sided 😛
    It reminds me of Einstein’s quote, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” 😀

    • So True Ravish.

    • So, all this was I expecting from the ‘Aristotle of blogosphere’. Subtle, satirical yet suitable. Well, my tale on being one-sided is, “after living continuously for 30 years in an institution makes you selfish. So you can only think of yourself to survive against odds”.
      And the Einstein quote is so apt in this context. Glad that you enjoyed the read. Thank you so much. 🙂

  • Hearty congrats! Sangeeta, wish you many more… enjoyed reading sweet and sour flavors of wedded life…truly life is spicier with these side effects..else it would have been so drab. No? 🙂

    • Thank you so much for your lovely wishes Buhra. Well said ! Life would surely have been dull without these flavors. Thank you for dropping by. 🙂

  • sweta

    Haha…..very true !! Nice to read something written by your mom for a change. Some genes you have inherited 🙂

    • Thank you so much Sweta. Glad that you enjoyed the read. Thanks for dropping by. 🙂

  • Those are really the side effects of marriage. Two different people, different desire, different habits. But in the end they are together. Even the best medicines have side effects.

    • Rightly said Mr. Kishor-“Even the best medicines have side effects”.
      Thank you so much for dropping by. 🙂

  • sunita

    Hearty congratulations on a beautuful partnership that akways works and succeeds this way…
    I am inching closer to the silver jubilee in couple of months and can say shaadi cures the main illness but leaves side effects for us to treat further:-)

    • Thanks a lot for your wishes Sunita. Well said that “shaadi cures the main illness but leaves side effects for us to treat further. Life is like that only – getting ill, having medicines… side effects… more treatments…. more illness…. life goes on and we strive for happiness.
      Here’s wishing you a very happy silver jubilee in advance. Thank you so much. 🙂

  • Rakesh Pandey

    Uh oh! Sweet & sour indeed! You know? Although it’s a self deprecating satire, it hits the bull’s eye. From one inmate of this institution to another… You nailed it brilliantly! Bitterly sweet may be an oxymoron, but this post is exactly that. Loved it! But, do I have any other options? Even I’m married! 😀

    • Hehe! Being ‘Happily Married’ is itself an oxymoron, and I can proclaim that after 30 years of being that.
      Glad that you liked this ‘absolutely different’ post from me Rakeshji. It always feels great when you read and appreciate my posts. Thank you so much. 🙂

  • सौरभ भारती

    ha ha if marriage is this wonderful, then everyone should get married 😉

    • Hehe. Wonderful? Ok. If it sustains for 30 years, it’s being considered wonderful no matter what. 🙂 Well, thanks for dropping by Saurabh.